tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post2763219934608333861..comments2023-07-01T14:55:14.828+05:30Comments on Aj's Take: CONDOMNATION!Ajaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-281400122161605092010-02-23T11:18:19.192+05:302010-02-23T11:18:19.192+05:30I also believe that falling in love is an ultimate...I also believe that falling in love is an ultimate feeling, and both my children have married for love only, but they knew certain guidlines from their childhood about what to do and look for in a life partnerand what not to do, but still everything cant be planned by human beings, there is something like God who disposes what we propose..but I dont believe in physical relationships before marriage, as I feel they bring much more complications in life, than make anything better.<br /><br />I may not be right, and may be proved wrong with time, but thats what i am convinced, as you can see not many marriage are stable today in the people who do what they want without any restrictions and I dont think that multiple marriages are good neither for society nor for an individual..you cant feel the pain of children who grow up with multiple parents and an hybrid family..as an individul we must see for something which is good for all, not foor an individual only..today you are single, so you are thinking only about urself..but I am thinking about the long term effect....<br /><br />Can you even imagin living with one of your parent and other living with some one else, and then having half siblings...Samvednahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14103943612564758951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-53964786263885846032010-02-22T16:11:15.379+05:302010-02-22T16:11:15.379+05:30@Tripat
Thanks. :)
@Deepak
Thanks. Glad you liked...@Tripat<br />Thanks. :)<br /><br />@Deepak<br />Thanks. Glad you liked it. :)<br /><br />@KG<br />Hey thanks. Will check out your blog. Glad you enjoyed the post. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-13892935560611342942010-02-22T16:09:28.387+05:302010-02-22T16:09:28.387+05:30@Antarman
I'm still not convinced. I don't...@Antarman<br />I'm still not convinced. I don't think we're misusing our freedom if we want out of an unhappy marriage. I feel falling in love is an important part of life. One that everyone should experience. We kind of by pass that through arranged marriages. It's not wrong. It's obvious that some arranged marriages work very well. Maybe we are all conditioned that way. But I think having to find one's love is an important part to the life experience. One that hopefully everyone should undertake. People will make mistakes. That's part of life. But one shouldn't desist because of that.Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-88701083482399975932010-02-04T18:24:29.311+05:302010-02-04T18:24:29.311+05:30hey! Just stumbled upon your blog and by the looks...hey! Just stumbled upon your blog and by the looks of it a lot of people loved the story.<br /><br />To me it was a relief that there are some liberals around!<br /><br />Oh and I actually think the 'son' (wink wink) was very responsible. What is really unconfortable is when your grandma asks you if you have a condom before the 3rd date.<br /><br />Now that is weird!<br /><br />Keep it going! Hey- I blog too at http://ulob1985.blogspot.com/ take a look.<br /><br />Cheers!KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18250394486213856133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-62053898923053913022010-01-31T22:36:17.178+05:302010-01-31T22:36:17.178+05:30Goot one AJ, humorous and well written Great going...Goot one AJ, humorous and well written Great going, not getting enough time to blog these days, keep up the good work !!!!!iamdeepakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01361602137770095425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-3432160177011483502010-01-29T15:33:45.807+05:302010-01-29T15:33:45.807+05:30really interesting..lolreally interesting..lolDr. Tripat Mehtahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972787985997523606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-68638470095606104512010-01-22T11:48:03.441+05:302010-01-22T11:48:03.441+05:30we cant compare it to driving for multiple reasons...we cant compare it to driving for multiple reasons..driving isjust a trait you know or dont know, do it well or even dont drive..its not going to make such a difference to your life.and there is nothing private about it.<br /><br />marriage is not about sex only, and compatibility in sex may be important but it can be acquired also..but maariage is about many other things..mental compatibility and your partner's respect for your family(specially for boys)..are much more important for a harmonious family life.<br />See west gives more importance to personal satisfactions and where they are...big on divorces..<br />Its a very complex issue and I can write reams about it.<br />I have seen many couple's divorce even after love marriage..so wouldnt say they are better..though you are right that they are due to women's empowerment..then arent we using the freedom wrongly?..I think a combination of arranged cum love are better, marriage has a better chance,with parental support.So one should never be complacent about their consent.<br /><br />with today's scenario..I would go with a prenuptial contract for certain things..An stable marriage is better for the individual and for the society.<br /><br />Tria in this aspect wont make any difference to your marriage, becuase this is just one aspect of life, one cant base marriage on this.Samvednahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14103943612564758951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-83502942361904197062010-01-21T11:46:09.222+05:302010-01-21T11:46:09.222+05:30@Chhaya
Aiyo... my comp crashed... just got it bac...@Chhaya<br />Aiyo... my comp crashed... just got it back. Have lots to catch up on. Will do so asap. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-63082223578084212302010-01-19T09:46:05.142+05:302010-01-19T09:46:05.142+05:30Aiyo Muruga!
wehere r u?Aiyo Muruga!<br /><br />wehere r u?Chhayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02793691982402313454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-56123793320283401662010-01-18T12:51:22.189+05:302010-01-18T12:51:22.189+05:30@ANC
Ya, some others have suggested swapping the s...@ANC<br />Ya, some others have suggested swapping the son for a daughter. Not sure how that conversation will go. Not sure if I want to know either. ;). We'll find out in this decade. That's for sure. <br /><br />@Venky<br />I still don't agree with you. But let's leave it at that. To each his own. :)<br /><br />@Nitin<br />He he. Thanks. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-51765188523225040732010-01-18T11:01:09.555+05:302010-01-18T11:01:09.555+05:30great post! Real-life conversation.great post! Real-life conversation.Nitinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15091323029996750898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-63731872932930650742010-01-14T11:55:14.514+05:302010-01-14T11:55:14.514+05:30Learning about sex is onething and wanting to try ...Learning about sex is onething and wanting to try out on every other or some person whether they are compatible is crazy. <br /><br />We have the capability of judging who would be a good mate without sex. There is lot we dont how we choose out partner using many parameters before going full throttle. For eg their face- the symmetry of their face, the sweat and smell they give out, and people are attracted to towards creative people (or else how would Salman Rushdie get Padma laksmi)<br />These are qualities that are in born in us when dont realize we have them. All this factors play a major role in the survival of species.<br /><br />So there is absolute no need to try it out on people every time for choosing a mate.Madmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801924403087055673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-37486771199989959642010-01-14T08:36:40.516+05:302010-01-14T08:36:40.516+05:30Now that's some kick off to a new year. Honest...Now that's some kick off to a new year. Honestly, I don't know how many people would actually have the guts to say all that to their parents. Maybe it is just fiction.<br /><br />Let's make this more interesting -- let's trade the son for a daughter :)<br /><br />Very relevant as we step into a new decade! :)ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448861562326905468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-84251002526358993222010-01-12T22:40:54.077+05:302010-01-12T22:40:54.077+05:30Buddy if you are looking for spontaneity then how ...Buddy if you are looking for spontaneity then how can u say marriage will give you that?<br /><br />Your response is a typical Indian boy response. I don't mean it as an insult. I'm not in favor of many of the things I've written either. But let's think things out aloud shall we? People get married... primarily to have sex and to have children. All the other stuff comes only from this primal objective. Now in a time when we are learning so many things about ourselves, isn't it also important to learn about our sexuality? Maybe you don't think so, but to me sex is going to be an extremely important part of my life. And I want to be able to enjoy it. Now supposing I get married to a girl who doesn't enjoy sex as much as I do, then a problem arises and there will always be conflict. We see manifestations of this everywhere. It is not that this is happening only now. It's been happening for ever and ever. Only now do we have the necessary science and freedom to back our knowledge.<br />So in such a scenario isn't it better to discuss and try out what sex will suit you? isn't it better to know yourself? You might say that not required. Ignorance is bliss after all. But if you want to come up with a rational argument i'm willing to back myself.<br />and lastly... boyo... you've obviously not been in a position where you've needed to use a condom. having to go around looking for it when u need it is a really irritating and agonizin experience. it's better to keep one in ur wallet... so that you're never found wanting. ;)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-5992444787480460942010-01-12T22:31:52.434+05:302010-01-12T22:31:52.434+05:30@Madhu
Welcome here. Well I'm not tamil, but c...@Madhu<br />Welcome here. Well I'm not tamil, but close... i'm malayalee. I stay in Chennai. So a lot of tamil influence. Hope u enjoyed the post. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-31757668472899671142010-01-12T22:30:12.462+05:302010-01-12T22:30:12.462+05:30@vishal jindal
totally accept that. it's ficti...@vishal jindal<br />totally accept that. it's fiction. don't expect any parents to actually be willing to discuss and listen to stuff like this. it's a point of view. that's all. welcome here. :)<br /><br />@sh...<br />hey there! long time. thanks for liking this post. well we are generally a very superstitious lot. not too smart abt things in general. sometimes we need to think things out. glad u get tht point. and ya i hope i get better as the year goes by. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-12860684457807587652010-01-12T10:35:35.795+05:302010-01-12T10:35:35.795+05:30Call it traditional or backward thinking or whatev...Call it traditional or backward thinking or whatever. I dont feel there is a need to practise it is not cricket or some game.<br /><br />Where has spontainity gone for god's sake ;-)<br /> <br />Studies have said that when people mate they get emotionally attached so they advise caution in choosing partner it is not like practicing stretching.<br /><br /> So casual sex is something not warranted and however on a lighter note there are absolutely lots of shops out there in the city and there is no need to carry one in the wallet anyways, one avoid these arguments that way :-)Madmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801924403087055673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-26213360023751185132010-01-12T08:28:13.508+05:302010-01-12T08:28:13.508+05:30that was a nice write up..:0 thanks for followin m...that was a nice write up..:0 thanks for followin me.U definetly are a tamilian aint it?? CAuz i am one too..:) ur writing says it all!Madhuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12169330042435906891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-3777549599638460432010-01-11T16:41:26.090+05:302010-01-11T16:41:26.090+05:30Happy New year dear..first of all!!
And kudos. lo...Happy New year dear..first of all!!<br /><br />And kudos. lovely...loved ur post...with the title perfect..!!<br /><br />"The stars will reveal if this girl is a virgin or not?" Man!! I loved this line the best...:-) <br /><br />Seeing the arguments above.... in te comments column, i would like to add .. I go with the son, thats what eventually every one wants - but get tied up with words like tradition and customs and values...or whtever...and dont give try to experience or discuss with parents...<br /><br />Hoping this year brings more good stuffs to read on ur Take..dumbhearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09587414057907338234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-10692191809037542992010-01-10T12:02:44.802+05:302010-01-10T12:02:44.802+05:30well that comes very straight..i wish things were ...well that comes very straight..i wish things were really that easy when confronting reserved parents that too on such an issue..<br />a nice take...kewl buddy!!<br /><br />thanks for dropping by my blog and joining it..keep visiting :)Anuraaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08231893097841437998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-25454909124025133402010-01-10T09:28:20.202+05:302010-01-10T09:28:20.202+05:30@Ajeya
Thanks Bro. You too. :)
@An Ordinary Gal
T...@Ajeya<br />Thanks Bro. You too. :)<br /><br />@An Ordinary Gal<br />Thanks. Welcome here. And just because this question has been banging inside my head for sometime... is that you in the pic? :P<br /><br />@Issam<br />Yes... I totally agree. People need to be more objective. Times are chaging and have changed. We have new realities. We need to accept the changes and change accordingly.Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-62203983483347181312010-01-09T19:12:37.764+05:302010-01-09T19:12:37.764+05:30Nice way of bringing out a topic bro... Its high t...Nice way of bringing out a topic bro... Its high time we stopped talking abt sex is hush hush silence. It's important for a child to have a clear mind. And its important that people have the ability to use their senses rather than blindly follow unwritten notions of acceptable behavior.<br />way to start off the new year :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10894972097205886726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-11200247740308467772010-01-09T11:53:29.150+05:302010-01-09T11:53:29.150+05:30humorous post with a very important message. Thank...humorous post with a very important message. Thanks for dropping by my side :)Ordinary Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04945950946807829860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-27743636420130138322010-01-09T11:23:03.873+05:302010-01-09T11:23:03.873+05:30:-) Nice conversatons there. Wish you too a very h...:-) Nice conversatons there. Wish you too a very happy new year Bro.AJEYA RAOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15770471904480140472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4809483340935764696.post-58685985965145761252010-01-08T23:40:01.919+05:302010-01-08T23:40:01.919+05:30@Srivats
I'm not sure we'll see any Indian...@Srivats<br />I'm not sure we'll see any Indian movie with a scene like that. At least not in the immediate future. ;)<br />Thanks for liking it. :)<br /><br />@Darshan<br />Thank you. You seem to have got the post in totality. Thanks. :)Ajaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06096062450350922403noreply@blogger.com